As I look out on the young ladies today, I often think about the song...... "No Pain, No Gain." As she stated there is a time for everything ........she said "be a cook in the kitchen, a lady in the streets, you can't show your stuff to every guy you meet...it's alright to be a little a sweet, be a Momma with the kids and you know what in the sheets...No Pain, No Gain...." Although it's a little much. It is right on point. We have many roles and many hats to wear and we have to know when to wear them. If it was one thing Mom taught me it was how to be a lady despite what anyone else was doing.
In some ways there are times when we have to adjust our lifestyle to the mess we create, but there is still a time for everything. I have learned that people are going to come and then they are going to go. It is best they leave when it is their time to go or you create an even worst problem in the end. One man's junk is a another man's treasure. If he can not bring out the best in you and you in him it maybe best to move on. As the Bible states there is no guarantee that you will change them.
Sometimes we endure for the greater good but if the situation is making you someone you are not and allowing you to lose your self respect, then you have to ask yourself is it really worth it? We always have to evaluate who our decisions will effect and of course make sure it is worth the loss for all involved. I often heard "you need to save yourself in my marriage." However, I knew he needed saving as much as I did. We were so young and we both came from similar backgrounds, therefore, I was more accepting and tolerant and so was he. However he always showed me respect in ways one could expect and he was there through the pregnancy and the delivery of each of his children and although we had to work on the stable job. He was willing to make the necessary changes and work three jobs to support his family.
What I am basically saying is we have to truly evaluate what we want long term; especially when we are making adult decisions that are going to effect us for the rest of our lives. We all get weary in marriage and we either press on or we walk away. My recommendation for you young girls is to evaluate whether you want to be in your situation for most or the rest of your life? You are not insecure when a lack of peace arises. You have to be willing to evaluate why those feelings came about. Unless there is something you have done to trigger that insecurity your insides are crying out to you for a reason. God truly equipped women with intuition so follow your insides.