Monday, February 22, 2016

When they say there is no's pure rubbish

When they say there is no God....I have to smile! I can recall becoming a Federal Court Reporter. A woman I knew nothing about contacted me and said she had heard my 
testimony and knew my background was perfect for this job. When I got the job 
50- 60 year old men kept saying...How did you get this job? However, I would simply respond the goodness of God. They would say it truly is because your people don't get 
this job. When they went on to call me their #1 Reporter they were in awe.
You see they couldn't understand how God could change the hearts of man. 
The opportunity came from God and the woman he used was a willing vessel who 
wanted to change this scene before she left.
You see even they had to admit that "In the sticks" this job was reserved for the wives 
of the Judges etc. So you see I don't want the rocks to cry out for me. I won't let man 
take credit for what God has done. I just feel led to share this testimony with someone.
But to GOD be the GLORY! Remember these scriptures.....won't He do it!
Luke 19:37-40New King James Version (NKJV)
37 Then, as He was now drawing near the descent of the Mount of Olives, the whole multitude of the disciples began to rejoice and praise God with a loud voice for all 
the mighty works they had seen, 38 saying:
“ ‘Blessed is the King who comes in the name of the Lord!’[a]
Peace in heaven and glory in the highest!”
39 And some of the Pharisees called to Him from the crowd, “Teacher, rebuke Your disciples.”
40 But He answered and said to them, “I tell you that if these should keep silent, the stones would immediately cry out.”
Psalm 14King James Version (KJV)
14 The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God.
My God is able and HE IS KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS! Never forget it!

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

The world and my children are challenging me so I better meditate on the word

This morning my daughter said to me "Mom see where being kind gets you".... I had to really reflect on her words. I said "You be kind because you should be." Not a very good answer. However, we can't let others dictate who we should be.  I was really at a loss for words. Here I am being someone I may not be. I was once this fighter who rarely lost at anything. Yet today as a Christian I find myself possibly forgiving too much and being tolerant of too much. Some how being kind has mixed itself with being tolerant of foolishness. She's right sometimes you can't be Kind. You have to be stern and show people that you are not willing to accept their lies, their deceit and their behaviors and allow them to take responsibility for their actions. How do I continue to teach them to be kind when people are clearly not kind? Help me Lord on this journey to live by faith and not by sight. Simply meditating on your word Lord.

Ephesians 4:32(ESV)

32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Sunday, February 14, 2016

The Writing has always been on the wall

In life people show you who they are time and time again. You want to believe everyone was brought up with the same values, so you will overlook and forgive and forget time and time again, The hope is that one day they will see your kindness and somehow be healed. I am at the end of this writing crusade but I wanted to share one tidbit. I just want to say one love is all you need. Choose for yourself, be wary of who gives you love advice and be quick to forgive but know that only you know if you can forget and keep that person in your life.

Monday, February 8, 2016

Morality in the South...I so desperately want to believe everyone was taught the golden rule

My time in the south has been a very difficult one. I have had quite a few mountains. I sometimes wonder if I just want to believe people were all taught what I was taught. To simply treat people the way you want to be treated. I try to avoid drama at all costs and just raise my family with simple values to be kind to people, and to do right by others. Yet I am learning daily that the world is filled with people who believe that they should get over.

I don't feel good if I have not done right by someone so I always try to go back and fix any offense if I can. Whether it's as simple as getting too frustrated with others or forgetting to do something I promised. I grew up remembering people wanting to do the right thing. Has the world just become over populated by people who just believe that as long as their benefiting it's okay to take advantage of others. I just don't remember people being so treacherous up north. Guide me Lord.

Thursday, February 4, 2016

Grateful for Wisdom and God's Love Proverbs 22:6

Growing up my mom made sure we understood how important it was to be happy for others. In church I learned the importance of allowing my children to have their moments. From making sure they have their own special day to teaching them that they are a team. They should not be feeling envious of the other because they each have their own gifts from God. Momma would say today for me but tomorrow is for you.

 I am grateful when I see my two oldest interact these days. There was a moment in there where I wondered if they were ever going to find their way back to being the best of friends. As I watched them grow I saw the word Proverbs 22:6 manifest this year "you train a child in the way that they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it." I give God the Glory that his word did not come back void. I am not raising my children in the ways of the world. Therefore, I don't expect them to do anything but support and love one another. No jealousy, definitely no shade and no negative seeds will prosper. Prayerful that they will stay on the same team and nurture and support one another because they are better together. They will definitely need each other in some capacity or another, therefore, I pray unity over my children and continued strength.

Saturday, January 23, 2016

Too much emphasis on Like these days......They didn't like Jesus or Dr. King.....

I know social media wants you to believe you should be liked. Well, I remember as a child coming home from school crying saying Mom "they were saying mean things and they don't like me." My mother looked me in the eye and said "You came in this world alone and you will leave it alone. It is when they like you....... that is when you should be worried. They are going to talk about you and they will not like you." She said "They didn't like Jesus and they didn't like Martin Luther King, Jr either." I say this to remind my children and others that change is uncomfortable and people don't like you when you make a difference. In the words of my mother your life should mean something and you should make a difference for the next generation as long as God loves you that is all that matters. It's when they like you too much and stop talking about you is when you should be concerned.

Monday, January 18, 2016

My previous post was selfish and sometimes you have to be...

I hope people understand because I almost deleted my last post. I asked my husband if I should delete it because it may hurt people's feelings. He responded "no, the truth hurts." I had to truly figure out how we move forward in life with all of us feeling fulfilled. I can not expect my husband to stay in places he is unfulfilled and he does not expect me to stay in places I feel unfulfilled.

I grew up in New Jersey so the south and the north are like day and night, I have learned some good things about living in the south though. You have to create your own destiny and create your own wealth. You have to leave a legacy behind and truly be the CHANGE you want to see.

I can dwell on the statistics and cry that the school system will never provide our children with an adequate education or I can see to it that my children get what they need. Last year, we were paying $400-$600.00 a month on tutoring for my youngest son. I thought that is enough to send my child to private school or I can use that money to create a safe place for all children to get additional assistance. My children are all creative, some more academic than others.

My daughter is more like I was leaning towards academic honors but even more brilliant. She maintains a 4.0 and she works in Charlotte, I drive her 45 minutes there because I am not ready for her to deal with small town thinking to some degree. Yet, she is not my biggest concern because she will be successful no matter where she goes. However, my sons are leaning more towards the creative side with the exception of 2 of the 4. One has already paved his way to college and one has paved his way to being certified in HVAC and fiber optics and towards being self employed.

I have 2 young sons left to raise who share similar qualities. I am grateful for the time I had in Charlotte, NC where there was a tremendous amount of support through programs such as UNCC where the children were able to get additional Science and Math courses on Saturdays. I am extremely grateful to programs such as the Urban League who blessed my husband and son with training and the ability to get better paying jobs. I am forever grateful to Victory Christian Center for showing us that life can be excellent when you create your own. They have amazed the Charlotte community by creating their own schools, their own programs and always upheld excellence in all that they do. They gave my children a fun environment to learn about Christ and a Friday fun night they will always cherish.

What my purpose in life is to do is not only to help my children succeed but to make sure there are resources available to combat the idea of the starving artist to ensure our children and other children the ability to pave their own way. To help them realize their source is the Almighty God and that man should not be the captain of their fate. To truly help them mobilize and learn to take the lemons they are given and make lemonade stands. So moving forward understand my reason for being selfish is to maximize my purpose so that one day we may truly be selfless in the best possible way. It is definitely time for change.

P.S.  I also salute people like Jada Pickett for recognizing that we can love the programs such as the award shows that exist but that we must understand that we can create our own platforms to acknowledge our successes as well!!!